Crazy Don't Play

Crazy Don't Play

A member asked a question in the Q & A section here in the Rain about a potentially volatile and expensive situation. These thoughts were the results of that conversation:

Have you ever been in the cross hairs of a tantrum thrower who fires verbal projectiles at close proximity or sends untrue written accusations to your friends, employer or landlord?

While it's impossible to dodge every event like this that occurs in life, you can avoid being reduced by some narcissists. Remain calm, then quickly separate yourself, like fast!

"If you see crazy coming,

cross the street!" Iyanla Vanzant

It's best to avoid being constantly pulled into another person’s drama or out-of-control fits. You can choose to forgive, however, don't ever forget the behavior and what might drive that person or persons to lash out.

Some key signs of toxicity:

- Physically combative

- Dishonesty and deceit

- Emotional manipulation

- Self-centered absorption 

- No compassion for others

- Tendency to create conflict 

It's tough to remain quiet when attacked by someone in such a manner but remember, toxic people do their best to make it seem like everyone else did something wrong, when obviously, it's otherwise.

They can get downright nasty, twisting words, you might even second guess yourself for something you might’ve done. Turning the situation around to accuse you of wanting to hurt them, often results.

Says she loves you but treats you with hateful disdain.

Get away or prepare to be targeted and shown no mercy. I refuse to give these narcissists any reason for an attack, though a few have hit me with their best shot.

Beware of people who enjoy playing dangerous games. It's painful to be on the receiving end of the spray meant for someone else, with no ammunition stockpiled!