Zoom Call 1.24.23 Thomas J Nelson Recharge to Take Charge

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Real Estate Agent with Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 REB.0759001

Thomas J Nelson Recharge to Take Charge

Thomas J Nelson Recharge to Take Charge

The Zoom call presented by Thomas J Nelson this week was a tutorial on how to sustain a healthy real estate business and also lifestyle. As a successful real estate agent/broker and investor since 1989 he has come to appreciate the need to relax and step back for vacation in order to clear the mind and also to recharge the body to maintain a healthy family relationship and to also better serve his clients. 

As a 3rd  generation realtor he knows the business well and also recognizes the need to step way at times to not only maintain his alertness but to also appreciate the fruits of his labors.

Over 60% of his business comes from military clients both first timers as well as second home buyers. 

His team, or as he prefers to call them, his alliance, consists of 12 agents, all Buffini coached, that cover all of San Diego County.  

Failure to Recharge

Thomas J Nelson Recharge to Take ChargeA failure to recharge fails all 5 circles of life. He believes that to properly serve all that we desire, we must bring the best of us, and not the rest of use. We cannot operate like a wrung out towel.

By not recharging, our personal and mental health are affected.

Family, friends and relationships are impacted as well.  When your conversation is all business all the time you will get tuned out by those around you.

The business also takes a hit as it is all built on relationships and lapses in mental acuity will cause mistakes.

Our spiritual life will be affected as overwork would mean not going to church or being part of the activities that we once held dear.

With this fatigue, finances will also be affected as we may lose clients for lack of proper attention.

Who Runs Who?

Thomas J Nelson Recharge to Take ChargeIf the business is our focus and may be all consuming 24/7. Thomas made the disclaimer that his presentation was not meant to create followers, but more specifically students. 

As a stated, a follower will just do what they are told while a student will question and often adapt what they feel is appropriate from a presentation and disregard the rest.  

He feels the experience of the real estate business can be improved with better habits and better disciplines which will allow for better real estate experiences.

There would be less arguments and confrontation.

Superhero Complex

We cannot be superheroes for our clients. We cannot be all things to all people at all times of the day/week/month. They believe that doing anything less is a negative reflection on their abilities.  There is a direct correlation between sleep and health. If we don't get enough rest, we can't function properly. Also, without sufficient sleep we put our health at risk. Sleep and health have an impact on our ability to manage our anxieties.

He offered an example of people having a meeting with their oncologist, and the oncologist asking them if they want the good news or the bad news. We don't want the doctor that starts to weep and creates a negative before the diagnosis has been fully presented. 

We want the doctor that presents the bad news but also demonstrates a positive and offers the good news on how the issue is going to be tackled and the positives of the treatments.

The professional calmly offers the plan of attack and how any obstacles will be overcome. To do this they not only have the knowledge but are reassuring as they are healthy and rested.

Guilt Management

Some agents may feel the need to work a bit longer on a day as they are feeling guilty about taking some time during the day to do something. If time is allotted for that personal event there should be no guilt to replace with over work.

We should retain the mindset of someone working a conventional job and when we are supposed to be working, we work and when it's time to play we play.

Greed Management

For some people there are just not enough hours in a day or not enough leads to chase to earn a dollar. There is little that can be done for these people. Everyone has their financial goals and need to work sufficient to reach these goals. The rewards for which are time with family and friends.

We need to identify the requirement to maintain reasonable office hours, taking time off and being able to take vacations.

Like any full time job, setting office hours creates the structure of the business. Set a reasonable workday and hold to it. At 5 or 6 PM, turn the card and close the business.  Clients will respect the time and work with us if they really like us and how we perform.

If one hasn't worked to a structure before, then starting by taking 1 or 2 days a week to get attuned to the schedule is the best way to start. Over time, add the rest of the days until it becomes accepted by yourself and others. Doctors, dentists, accountants all work to a structured time and their clients accept that. If your hours are established your clients will work to them as well.

Take a day off and keep to it. A day to rest ad recharge are needed to stay at optimum performance.

He also maintains the structure of not working on vacation. The agent that takes a phone call while on vacation someplace is really not on vacation, just working from someplace else.

After one spends their hard-earned money to travel to exotic places, how important is a call from someone asking about a listing?

He offered his Wrap it up slide to demonstrate how important time off is to our business and quality of life.

By re-adjusting our mindsets we will become better agents for our clients as well as better companions to our souses and friends,

Thomas J Nelson Recharge to Take Charge

 

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Comments (36)

Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

I was sorry to have missed this meeting, especially as I've been with the Buffini Group for some 15 years and was certified as a Buffini mentor/trainer many years ago. I'm all about closing my door at 6pm. 

Jan 26, 2023 05:11 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Ed,

Thank you for the excellent recap of the Zoom meeting with Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets . I was so bummed both my meetings Tuesday ran over and I wasn't done until 2:30! Sounds like a winner of a a message. Setting boundaries is a must in our business...we have to have a life..it took me a while in the beginning 31 years ago when I began in real estate but after some classes with Floyd Wickman I soon learned a better way to balance my life and my career.

Jan 26, 2023 05:45 AM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets

Floyd Wickman is one of the best and Brian Buffini brings him up a lot at my coaching sessions at Buffini & Company 

Jan 26, 2023 07:15 AM
Pete Cullen ~ Broker Associate, GRI,CRS
Bailey Properties, Inc. - Santa Cruz, CA
Serving The Entire Monterey Bay Area

Thank you for the great post Thomas!   

Jan 26, 2023 06:52 AM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets

Great to see you here Pete Cullen ~ Broker Associate, GRI,CRS !!!
Oh, Please Thank Ed Silva - it was his post on my presentation. Ed did a great job capturing the essence of Tuesday's Zoom which can be summarized by one word: Boundaries. 

Jan 26, 2023 07:17 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Ed, sounds like I missed Thomas's great information, and it doesn't take long to burn out in this business.   Always good to see the signs.

Jan 26, 2023 07:09 AM
Scott Schulte
Scott Schulte LLC - Phoenix, AZ

If you want the freedom to take time off for health, wellness, and spending time with family, then Real Estate can be a great way to achieve that.  Not all of us know how to achieve this Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets gave us a very informative and professional way to achieve this!  Thank you for your presentation, I think every agent should take time off!  As I said as soon as I left the meeting, I planned three 1/2 days off in a row and spent a bunch of money on a mountain bike. 🚵‍♀️🚲 So time off can get expensive! 

Jan 26, 2023 08:05 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Ed and I wish I could of attended Tomas Zoom call but had a 130 appt and had to leave 30 minutes into it and did not feel that would be right!

 

Jan 26, 2023 08:44 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets, gave a wonderful presentation and Ed Silva did a wonderful (as always) recap. Thank you both!

Jan 26, 2023 01:27 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I am certain all who were able to attend this Zoom session benefitted from doing so, Ed.

Jan 26, 2023 02:05 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Ed, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Jan 26, 2023 02:06 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Leanne Smith   TJ has developed a plan that allows him to be successful and enjoy life as well.

Bill Salvatore - East Valley  Glad to be able to get you your points.

Lise Howe   It's a business and should be run like a business, hours and days off as well.

Jan 26, 2023 03:15 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Kathy Streib   So unconventional to run real estate like a 9-5 job, almost.

Hannah Williams   We all need to manage and allow ourselves to control our business and not the other way around.

George Souto   He was every bit the professional with his topic and presentation.

 

Jan 26, 2023 03:20 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets  Thank you for your presentation and for providing a path to achieve the same.

Jan 26, 2023 03:21 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400   I have muted my phone at 7 PM for years.  Too many late night people that think they can call a 3 in the AM.

Buzz Mackintosh   I have been guilty of peeking at the hone while on vacation and have to stop that very bad habit.

Kat Palmiotti   It was a fast moving presentation and his appreciation of the business and his personal time were quite evident.

Jan 26, 2023 03:27 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Dr. Paula McDonald   It was a very good ca and good for you for taking the time off with co-workers.

Kathy Streib   Thank you for the recognition.

Jeff Dowler, CRS   Thank you he provided the call and I just hit the highpoints.

Jan 26, 2023 03:30 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Laura Cerrano   He was very into his presentation and his joy was evident.

Brian England   Maybe he will shift east and open up a space for you.

Nina Hollander, Broker   That shows in the professionalism you carry and the business you generate.

Jan 26, 2023 03:33 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker

Ed Silva 

Jan 27, 2023 04:06 AM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Dorie Dillard Austin TX   It can turn into a wheel, and we would become like those critters that don't know how to get off or stop it.

Pete Cullen ~ Broker Associate, GRI,CRS  Thanks for taking the time to stop and read and comment.

Joan Cox  It's not enough to see the signs one has to know what to do with them 

Jan 26, 2023 03:37 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Scott Schulte   It makes no sense to work hard make a lot of money and die young.

Will Hamm   It was a prescription for staying healthy and focused.

Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400   Thanks for taking the time to stop.

 

 

Jan 26, 2023 03:40 PM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Myrl Jeffcoat   Thank you for the recognition and taking the time to stop and comment.

Jan 26, 2023 03:42 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Fantastic re-cap of the zoom meeting with Thomas, as presenter. Preventing burnout is very important and re-charging regularly, helps maintain a positive life outlook, Ed! Thank you for catching us up on the weekly meetings.

Jan 27, 2023 10:40 AM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA
Realtor

I missed the presentation and I really appreciate your thorough review of it.  Thank you!

Jan 28, 2023 09:15 AM