Motivational Monday…Stop Waiting for Your Competition to Trip

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Motivational Monday…Stop Waiting for Your Competition to Trip


The other day, the analysts were discussing my team which was on the brink of being #1 in their division.

Fans that we are, Larry and I have been keeping tabs on the teams that were #1 and #3. We’ve gone as far as to catch some of their games, rooting for them to lose.

However, as the baseball analysts so aptly noted…while our team is aware of the scores of the competing teams, their focus is on what they need to do to win.  They cannot wait and hope that their competitors lose.


Moving right along to how the heck this compares to real estate or anything else…


Whether competing or trying to get through life, the key is to turn your focus on the things over which you have control.

For example, at our recent Zoom call, Dorie Dillard outlined how she was determined to become the “Go to” agent in Canyon Creek. 

She didn’t wait for the predominant agent in her community to falter. She focused on her own plan. (read about it in Ed Silva’s Zoom recap.)


We cannot control someone’s actions, plans, or thoughts. What we can control is what we do….how we react…what we think.

Often, our actions may change the behavior of others.

A flower does not think of competing with
the flower next to it. It just blooms.

Zen Shin


 Don’t compare yourself to others.
There’s no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it’s their time.


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Comments (22)

Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Excellent advice, Kathy. I've always said I have no competition but myself. And I can't control anyone but myself.

Sep 25, 2023 04:55 AM
faye schubert

Totally agree! 

Sep 25, 2023 05:05 AM
Kathy Streib

I feel the same way Nina Hollander, Broker I am my hardest critic and toughest competition. 

Sep 25, 2023 10:57 AM
faye schubert
Retired - Branson, MO
Living the Branson Lake Life

One must be proactive in their thoughts and what THEY can do, not what someone else or the world will do to them.

Sep 25, 2023 05:06 AM
Kathy Streib

faye schubert some people blame others or some event for their failures. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:00 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Good morning! It's so true - we can only control what we can control - and that's what we should focus on!

Enjoy your Monday.

Sep 25, 2023 05:09 AM
Kathy Streib

Kat Palmiotti it's a simple concept, isn't it. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:00 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Kathy - the "Unknown" words of wisdom are an ideal fit for your post.   Appropriate in sports or everyday life.  Good advice.  And even better when regularly practiced.  

Sep 25, 2023 05:09 AM
Kathy Streib

I like that quote too Michael Jacobs  We can become so competitive that we place our focus on the other person. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:03 AM
Doug Rogers
RE/MAX Coastal Properties - Destin, FL
Your Real Estate Resource!

Agree 100%. Better to focus on the stuff we CAN influence. 

Sep 25, 2023 06:35 AM
Kathy Streib

Exactly Doug Rogers Fix what we can do and who we are. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:03 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
Relocation to NW AZ with elbow room & more freedom

For years I have coached clients to "focus on what you can control." Then I share the words of another respected colleague "you drive by more business than you will ever have."

Sep 25, 2023 06:56 AM
Kathy Streib

I like that saying Leanne Smith And it's true. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:04 AM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Platinum - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Great post!  Thanks for sharing and enjoy your day!

Sep 25, 2023 07:30 AM
Kathy Streib

Thank you Kristin Johnston - REALTOR® Have a great week. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:05 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Monday morning, Kathy.

Have a great day and an outstanding week.

Sep 25, 2023 08:20 AM
Kathy Streib

Thank you Roy Kelley Hello to Chef Dolores. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:05 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

No team really backs into a quality season. It is really the hard work all year long. 

Sep 25, 2023 08:32 AM
Kathy Streib

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty We've had a rough year but I still love the team. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:08 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Kathy and thank you again for sharing the video with me, now if I can just figure our how to post it in the rain.


Sep 25, 2023 10:04 AM
Kathy Streib

Will Hamm Can you upload it to YouTube first!  Then you can embed it. Try this tutorial from Craig Daniels 

Sep 25, 2023 11:12 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathy,

Your last two quotes emphasize your points well. I have never waited to see if the competition would falter.  However, I did look to see what they were doing well and try to improve upon those areas. 

Sep 25, 2023 10:39 AM
Kathy Streib

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® I do the same!  When I worked at Talent Tree, I always knew who was doing what and who had what accounts. But I didn't let it change what accounts I was targeting. 

Sep 25, 2023 11:19 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy never depend on someone else to do what you can do yourself.

Sep 25, 2023 01:06 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

STAND OUT in the crowd - I can still say my Mom tell me!  That was her way of saying - don't compete with others - know what you want and go after it. Don't compare yourself to others.

Years ago when I first began blogging I couldn't understand how my company wasn't getting ranked high on G.  Hmmm.  But then of course ActiveRain came along and showed me exactly how to get ranked over and over and over.  Pretty soon I had brokers and agents saying to me 'how the heck did you do that'?   Be a STAND OUT!

Sep 25, 2023 01:20 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy Streib  what an awesome post indeed, I only compare myself to myself, what I have done better or worse from previous times. Now with that said loved what you said about Dorie Dillard Austin TX  indeed we determine what we can and will do! Endre

Sep 25, 2023 04:46 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

I so appreciate your competitive spirit, Kathy! For me, it's proving that you have a winning attitude and do it, instead of depending on someone else to fail to make you become successful or look better.

Sep 25, 2023 06:14 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathy, can't hope the other team will lose, your team has to perform at its best!

Sep 26, 2023 12:18 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Kathy, Taking charge of our thoughts and actions, rather than relying on external forces, is the key to personal empowerment.

Sep 26, 2023 01:25 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

My Dbacks are in a close race for the last spot in the playoffs so we definitely need to keep winning, no matter what anyone else does.  I see your Astros are in a fight as well.

Sep 26, 2023 04:53 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

I love this Zen Shin quote, it really inspires me to work harder. Thank you 🙂

Sep 26, 2023 07:42 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

When my kids were much younger, and competing on swim teams.  We always told them they were competing against their previous best swim times, as much as they were the kid in the next lane.

Sep 26, 2023 08:50 PM